Right Relations

What is the Committee on Right Relations?

The Committee on Right Relations (CRR) exists to help process conflicts between congregants and between congregants and the church's staff, its executive team, and its board of trustees.

The CRR chair is Kathy Ferger.

Is the CRR working with the Covenant of Right Relations?

Yes, the CRR is implementing the portions of the Covenant which state:

We resolve conflicts directly, using openness and compassion, and we:

  • make every effort to settle differences directly and openly,
  • stay engaged with each other through difficult conversations,
  • hold ourselves responsible for hearing all sides.

We listen with respect and attention and speak with care.

We acknowledge our mistakes and shortcomings and are willing to forgive those of others.

How can the CRR help me?

The CRR has designed a conflict resolution process for disagreements between congregants, or congregants and staff, or committees/groups. Most conflicts can be addressed either by:

1. Parties involved work it out. Parties resolve differences themselves. They receive education/training and apply Right Relations Guidance Coaching – one or both parties may benefit from the help of a person experienced with conflict resolution to help them gain additional skills or techniques to resolve the situation themselves.

2. Facilitated discussion with the help of a Right Relations Team member. In some instances, parties may simply wish to have a third party lead a conversation for the purpose of assisting parties in understanding/mediation.

Contact Kathy Ferger (202-723-6320; solutions_CRR@googlegroups.com). Confidentiality is assured. The CRR will neither disclose the names of parties involved nor the content or substance of matters brought to it unless disclosure is reasonably believed to be necessary to avoid physical or substantial financial harm, or is required by law.

Where can I get more information?

1. All Souls Conflict Resolution Policy and Process

2. All Souls Covenant of Right Relations

3. UUA’s Conflict Resolution Policy (Reverend Terasa Cooley provides references and suggestions such as “Manage your own anxiety” and “Try to find a learning opportunity in conflict.”)